I was talking (really instant messaging) to an old friend of mine the other day. I started talking about the sad situation of children in orphanages around the world.
He had a view on adoption that surprised me. Here is what he had to say:
"If I had too choose between a child that I have never met dying in an orphanage or taking away from what my own kids could have, I"d have picked my son."
"NO mom, dad, etc is good enough to do enough for that many individual children. A huge support group is needed. You've, in a way, pushed that on others and you don't have a right to ask for their help. It's not fair to your own, real kids. None of your kids will have all they may have been able to get in a smaller family.
"Your relatives and friends sometimes have to help you with the kids when they shouldn't have to. It's not their problem."
The more I heard, the madder I got. Then I felt sad. It hit me that probably a lot of people feel this way. Maybe this is why people question why I adopted more children when we already had a full house.
So, I ask you all, my wonderful readers, how would you respond to this person? Because, me, I am just weary of trying to explain my reasons.