"What lies behind us, and what lies before us are small matters
compared to what lies within us."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Lots of Trouble

People ask me all the time why I go to so much trouble to adopt. They are right. Adoption is a ton of work. First, you have the cleaning frenzy to get your house ready for the first homestudy visit. The night before our first visit, I stayed up all night to paint 20 steps (then a dog walked on it and I had to do it again). We even moved the refrigerator and cleaned under it!
Then, there is the local fingerprinting at the police office, the fingerprinting for the state, federal fingerprinting, all of which are not located in the same place. Waiting in lines getting things certified, making copies, applying for grants (which requires pages of documents), requesting records, trying to be patient, sleepless nights of worrying, praying, being afraid, and doubting what you are doing is right. The work really begins once you bring your child home. Adoption is all about loss. The child is being taken from everything they have ever known, even if all they have known is terrible. So expect some attachment issues. Little Catherine wouldn't look at me for months. Plan on behavioral problems, stealing, lying, screaming, physical problems, doctors appointments, and your other children want some attention too! Many times I have thought it would be so much easier to just go on a fabulous vacation and lie in the sun and only think of myself.

Unfortunately, there are many things to remind me why I adopt......

They are worth every paintbrush stroke, every penny and every gray hair on my head!


  1. "Deedee writes to her mother everyday." Heartbreaking. Oh my. These sort of things just kill me. Part 1 makes me want to throw up....

    I will have to watch the rest later.

    Awful. These are human beings treated like this. It hurts so much to see this.

  2. I watched. My eyes have been opened. It breaks my heart. Thank you for directing me to this.

  3. Thank you so much for writing! Sometimes I think I am not making any difference writing this blog. Your comment keeps me going!


  4. Little Vasky...I thought I was going to throw up. My heart bleeds for these little ones.

  5. This was just posted on our Reeces Rainbow Christmas warrior Facebook page. I want to scream "why God?"!! But then I see your quotes to the right, and I remember, we are called to be His hands, but unfortunately too many He calls choose to ignore Him. This breaks my heart, so I know it breaks His 100 times more.


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