People ask me all the time why I go to so much trouble to adopt. They are right. Adoption is a ton of work. First, you have the cleaning frenzy to get your house ready for the first homestudy visit. The night before our first visit, I stayed up all night to paint 20 steps (then a dog walked on it and I had to do it again). We even moved the refrigerator and cleaned under it!
Then, there is the local fingerprinting at the police office, the fingerprinting for the state, federal fingerprinting, all of which are not located in the same place. Waiting in lines getting things certified, making copies, applying for grants (which requires pages of documents), requesting records, trying to be patient, sleepless nights of worrying, praying, being afraid, and doubting what you are doing is right. The work really begins once you bring your child home. Adoption is all about loss. The child is being taken from everything they have ever known, even if all they have known is terrible. So expect some attachment issues. Little Catherine wouldn't look at me for months. Plan on behavioral problems, stealing, lying, screaming, physical problems, doctors appointments, and your other children want some attention too! Many times I have thought it would be so much easier to just go on a fabulous vacation and lie in the sun and only think of myself.
Unfortunately, there are many things to remind me why I adopt......
They are worth every paintbrush stroke, every penny and every gray hair on my head!