Please don't give me the "sympathy" smile when you see my children. My children are not defective, they are just different. You don't need to feel sorry for them or for me. Sometimes a little wave or a friendly, "your kids sure are cute" would really be nice.
Yes, these children are all mine and no, I won't tell you which ones are my "real" ones. I don't think I have any imaginary children since the last time I checked.
Please refrain from asking me in front of them why their "own" parents didn't want them. I would be happy to talk to you about adoption and thrilled to answer your questions, but please remember that my children do have ears and they have hearts that can break, just like yours.
Please don't be offended when my daughter doesn't make eye contact with you or smile at your attempts to engage her. Don't make quick judgements like, "she seems very distant." Everyone has a story and the beginning of my daughter's story was pretty difficult, so she isn't very trusting and open, especially of people wearing stethoscopes.
Greetings mom at the grocery store,
I don't really know if my kids are going to be cognitively normal. Since your kid is licking the lid of the bleach, maybe you can't predict your kid's future either. My kids may not all be rocket scientists (well, except for maybe little Catherine, she may take over the earth), but I am sure they will be kind, loving and grow up to help others.
Hiya kids at the playground,
I know some of my kids look a little unusual. Please don't whisper about them and point and laugh. Just come on over and ask them to play in the sand and get to know them. You might make a new friend.
Hi stranger on the street,
Thanks so much for telling me how beautiful all my children are and treating them just like everyone else. You made us have a great day!